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To Be Successful at Anything, You Must Be Authentic in Everything

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Truth is a point of view, but authenticity can’t be faked. ~ Peter Guber

We now live in a society where ‘realness’ has become a requirement in every aspect of life. We demand it from our government, business leaders, community leaders, and even social media. It’s believed that you can’t be successful if people don’t feel like you’re presenting a true sense of who you really are.

Authenticity is needed today for everyone regardless of the situation. From the least to the greatest, self-awareness makes it easier to see life choices more clearly and brings our values more into focus. When we are authentic, we align our actions with our beliefs, values, strengths and weaknesses as one.

To Be Authentic You Must Conquer Two Things:

1.  Clarification of Who You Are

For most people, this is not a problem. I personally embrace authenticity, and regularly reap the benefits of it. But there are some who find it hard to be so open about who they really are. This makes it difficult for some to reach the full level of success in business and in their personal lives. In most cases, lack of authenticity is not because a person is deliberately being dishonest. Lack of authenticity can also come from not truly knowing who you authentically are; therefore unable to authentically express it. If you want to be relevant in today’s society, you must first clarify who you are and incorporate that authenticity into everything you do. To bring clarity to who you are, start asking yourself some specific questions. These honest answers will get you started on a path of defining yourself. What are your core values? What is your life vision?

 2. Consistency at Being You

Do you constantly hide behind a mask so that you will blend in? Take note; it’s perfectly fine to have an opinion and profess your personal likes and dislikes. “Be yourself” is possibly the most commonly used phrase in history and yet so many people still find it hard to do. To be yourself simply means to define yourself on your terms. To be consistently authentic you have to stop caring about how other people perceive you.  Doing specific things every day is easier to maintain than dropping things and picking them up over and over again. Consistency is not about seeing and reaching a finish line. Consistency is about doing (or being) the same with no timescale. You are authentic, irreplaceable and unique. Your authentic self supports your purpose in life. For example: Carpenters are naturally gifted to use their hands to create things. Successful public relations professionals have a naturally gift of great communication.

How can you become more consistent at being you?

  • First, Make a commitment to define your personal values.
  • Create business and personal relationships that allow you to be authentic.  (Practice makes perfect)
  • Be aware, authenticity means some people will not like or agree with you.
  • Don’t be afraid to disagree with things that do not agree with your values and beliefs.
  • Identify and embrace your weaknesses.
  • Identify and articulate your strengths.
  • Be sure that everyday your actions mirror your values and beliefs.  (Walk what you talk)

Prosperity and fulfillment flows free for those who have taken time to ‘do the work’, get real with themselves and discover what makes ‘You’ you.  Surround yourself with people who clearly now who they are and is committed to being consistent to their true self. People (family, friends, colleagues & customers) will not support what they don’t believe.

Written by Beverly S. Davis

July 27, 2013 at 10:00 pm

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  1. Sometimes is hard to be yourself because we think people won’t like us. My advice is that if you are branding yourself or your company, try to be authentic, align your values and express them to the public. In life you will have people that don´t like you and people that really like you. It’s better to have someone who likes you because they like who you are, this will bring longer and stable relations.


    August 5, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    • Thank you for your comments. I agree, it’s always better in the long run to be your authentic self. The right people will always come (and stay) when you are truly being you.

      Beverly S. Davis

      August 5, 2013 at 8:13 pm

  2. Being authentic will require you to make a demand on yourself, your relationships, and the things you choose to pursue. Ask yourself, will this relationship add or subtract from my vision and life’s goal? Be honest and realistic about your expectations but, importantly stay open-minded and provide relationships enough time to reveal their value. Great article Ms. Davis! Thanks for sharing.


    November 29, 2013 at 10:59 am

    • Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed it. Yes, being authentic requires a daily demand on yourself. If we ask ourselves certain questions and answer honestly, we reap the rewards in all areas of our lives.

      Beverly S. Davis

      November 29, 2013 at 12:06 pm

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